The Great Sacrifice
The answer to the question we discussed a couple of weeks ago is: Yes.
I asked Ping about it last night. Why do you ask me that question now? She inquired. We were talking about it on our blog, I told her, so I am asking you about it. You had a great career, friends, family, home, car - a good life - in China, yet you gave that all up to come to America. Did you feel at the time that you were making a sacrifice so that Cici would have a better chance in life?
Yes, she responded, but not just for Cici. I was also making a sacrifice for you and for my family. You were in America and your career is in America. I thought it would be better if Cici could study in America, though my preference would have been after she finished high school in China. There were two of you, so it was better for me to make the sacrifice than to ask you and Cici to make the sacrifice by living in China. If I had been alone in China - no Cici and no you - then I would never have left China, because I had everything else that I wanted in China.
Then Ping pointed out some people we know where the Chinese lady was not willing to give up her career and her life in China, even for the sake of being with her husband and child in America. She also didn't like living in America. The child didn't want to be in America without his mother, and he didn't like living with his step-father, so now he is in school in Australia. That does not make a good family, Ping said. I wanted a good family for Cici and me. I wanted to be with you and I wanted to be with Cici. So I came to America.
And there you have it, from the horse's mouth.
I asked Ping about it last night. Why do you ask me that question now? She inquired. We were talking about it on our blog, I told her, so I am asking you about it. You had a great career, friends, family, home, car - a good life - in China, yet you gave that all up to come to America. Did you feel at the time that you were making a sacrifice so that Cici would have a better chance in life?
Yes, she responded, but not just for Cici. I was also making a sacrifice for you and for my family. You were in America and your career is in America. I thought it would be better if Cici could study in America, though my preference would have been after she finished high school in China. There were two of you, so it was better for me to make the sacrifice than to ask you and Cici to make the sacrifice by living in China. If I had been alone in China - no Cici and no you - then I would never have left China, because I had everything else that I wanted in China.
Then Ping pointed out some people we know where the Chinese lady was not willing to give up her career and her life in China, even for the sake of being with her husband and child in America. She also didn't like living in America. The child didn't want to be in America without his mother, and he didn't like living with his step-father, so now he is in school in Australia. That does not make a good family, Ping said. I wanted a good family for Cici and me. I wanted to be with you and I wanted to be with Cici. So I came to America.
And there you have it, from the horse's mouth.
Goodness! I had completely forgotten about that.
Still it works out in the end, right?
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