Moving On, With Authority
So does it feel any different?
Yes it does. It feels different to me, and it seems to feel different for Ping and Cici, having the adoption finalized. For one thing, the dreaded step-father label goes away. It gave Ping a lift in several ways, including the way her friends look at our marriage and family. She has experienced admiration and sometimes a little envy because Cici is now officially my daughter. For the families of some of her friends, the step-father relationship is all that will ever exist, and that is disappointing to them.
The fact that Cici is now a U.S. Citizen also gives Ping extra security in some ways, and it certainly gives Cici extra security. Our family and friends in China now see our daughter in a different light as well. She is no longer the little Chinese girls who they bade good bye a year ago. She came to America, she achieved in ways that they never expected, and now she changed in a way that they also never expected.
Cici had developed a cough this weekend, and it was worse yesterday. There was no fever, so we weren't concerned about H1 N1, but I insisted that we go see the doctor anyway after school yesterday. It is an upper respiratory infection, so we got a prescription for some antibiotics and some cough medicine. We stopped by Walgreens on the way home and they said it would take an hour to fill the prescriptions. I didn't want to wait, but out of curiosity I asked them what the medicines would cost. It was seventy something dollars.
This is crazy, I told the girls. I will go to Costco. So I dropped them off at the house so Cici could study and rest. I felt especially empowered when I told the lady at Costco that I needed some medicine for my daughter. I knew that I had full authority to help her. Authority that no one can question. And that makes a big difference. There was also a big difference in the price. It was less than seventeen dollars.
Thank all of you for your congratulations and best wishes. We appreciate it very much.
Yes it does. It feels different to me, and it seems to feel different for Ping and Cici, having the adoption finalized. For one thing, the dreaded step-father label goes away. It gave Ping a lift in several ways, including the way her friends look at our marriage and family. She has experienced admiration and sometimes a little envy because Cici is now officially my daughter. For the families of some of her friends, the step-father relationship is all that will ever exist, and that is disappointing to them.
The fact that Cici is now a U.S. Citizen also gives Ping extra security in some ways, and it certainly gives Cici extra security. Our family and friends in China now see our daughter in a different light as well. She is no longer the little Chinese girls who they bade good bye a year ago. She came to America, she achieved in ways that they never expected, and now she changed in a way that they also never expected.
Cici had developed a cough this weekend, and it was worse yesterday. There was no fever, so we weren't concerned about H1 N1, but I insisted that we go see the doctor anyway after school yesterday. It is an upper respiratory infection, so we got a prescription for some antibiotics and some cough medicine. We stopped by Walgreens on the way home and they said it would take an hour to fill the prescriptions. I didn't want to wait, but out of curiosity I asked them what the medicines would cost. It was seventy something dollars.
This is crazy, I told the girls. I will go to Costco. So I dropped them off at the house so Cici could study and rest. I felt especially empowered when I told the lady at Costco that I needed some medicine for my daughter. I knew that I had full authority to help her. Authority that no one can question. And that makes a big difference. There was also a big difference in the price. It was less than seventeen dollars.
Thank all of you for your congratulations and best wishes. We appreciate it very much.
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